A vent of sorts

I really try to be understanding to various people. I try to understand both sides of the coin, and people in different but like situations. I like to keep an open mind but sometimes I'm just pushed to a brink where I'm left having to let out how I truly feel about a certain situation and how sometimes there's a blatant gap between one 'side' over another. I'm sorry if this offends any of my readers, but at this point I'm severely lacking understanding and am getting more and more frustrated with this way of thinking.

I need to just get this out. Nothing upsets me more than a mother complaining she can't get pregnant and have another baby that everyone else has "the one thing she wants most". Meanwhile she has the one thing PI (primary infertility) ladies wish they could experience just once. I guess for me I find it entirely rude and overly dramatic to treat IF the second time around as if you haven't ever been blessed with a child of your own. I understand women without children being upset at others getting the one thing they've wished for. I fail to really understand those who say the exact thing when they actually already do have a child.

I've seen a women last year even say, after having 5 kids.. that's right folks 5 kids. Go on an Infertility forum and post "All of my friends around me are getting pregnant and having kids. When will it FINALLY be my turn !?!" 5 kids directing most of her frustration at women with no kids, asking when it will FINALLY be YOUR TURN? Really? Come on people, KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE. It's not ok in my mind to entirley complain to a group of women about having your 6th kid when they haven't been graced with having their 1st, and finally getting to be a mother, know the ups and downs of parenthood. Just, come on already! Please open your eyes. When things like this are said it is a huge reason why people without children struggling will internally think that a person doesn't 'appreciate' the gifts given to them. I see it as being greedy. Would you complain about not getting the 4th course in a meal to a starving child of a 3rd world country? I see this as being no different. I completely get that people need support but sometimes we have to go find specific groups of women who are in our exact situation, so that we don't offend people (yes we're in a world where sometimes we're too sensitive but I don't feel this is one of them) and so that you can get the proper support you deserve.

I've seen this happen more than once. Actually sometimes the most vocal about their pain are those who have children already complaining to women with no children. What gives? Is it just me? I just find it completely closed minded to treat your life like its the worst journey that could ever happen to you when you know that your life could be a lot worse. You could still not be a mother at all.

Ughhh.....