I'm in mild shock that I'm even able to write the title. We have been extremely blessed and I just count those blessings each and every day. The pregnancy is going well, our little girl is growing and seems to be doing great. I've enjoyed this mild summer as it seems to be helping with my swelling (not that it bothers me really just something I noticed). The energy I have is still a bit on the lower side but to be expected.
I'm really really crafting up a storm and as each week passes I'm a bit overwhelmed with what I have left to do. But I must remind myself that I'll get done what I can and whatever I don't it'll be ok. :)
I'll share in a few weeks what I've done when I have a bit more compiled to give you the full gamut of what seems to be my own version of nesting.
At about 23 weeks I could actually feel her and not question if it's her or gas. Best description of how it feels is almost like a muscle twitch? With an anterior placenta feeling her was far later for us than most people. But to feel her has been amazing and at times a welcomed distraction at work. At 24 weeks Paul was able to feel her give him a kick or punch for the first time. Mens faces are so stinking adorable when they feel their child for the first time. I think because there's this disconnect for the father as he isn't feeling these daily movements. It was special to see and makes me tear up to think about. Now at 28 almost 29 weeks (where is the time going!?!) I can feel her actually move, it's no longer just popping moments, it's a pushing movement that feels so fricken cool. The past few days we've been noticing we can feel her 'bum' (She's head down so this is my assumption). on my right side just in line with my rib cage. It's really so neat to feel. I think when I felt those movements/pushes is when I really started to connect to her, when I just really let my guard down and had a few 'awe' moments. when I feel her 'bum' i just sit there almost trying to sooth her lol weird but I do.
We have a shower next weekend and feel just so blessed that we are love to the capacity we are. Overall we have felt so much love and anticipation regarding her arrival. I just want to thank all of those people we care for. You ROCK!
We just honestly never thought these moments would come, I'm truly trying to cherish each moment and second. I just wanted to update you as well to let you know everything is going well and fingers crossed they continue to go well. We have 11 weeks left which in retrospect isn't a lot
As always I wouldn't be me if I didn't say that I'm thinking about the ladies struggling right now. Posting what I did is always hard because I know there are a few of my readers who are struggling and I hope you don't mind this update. You are always in my thoughts no matter what I do and I continue to hope for you all each and every day.
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
A vent of sorts
I really try to be understanding to various people. I try to understand both sides of the coin, and people in different but like situations. I like to keep an open mind but sometimes I'm just pushed to a brink where I'm left having to let out how I truly feel about a certain situation and how sometimes there's a blatant gap between one 'side' over another. I'm sorry if this offends any of my readers, but at this point I'm severely lacking understanding and am getting more and more frustrated with this way of thinking.
I need to just get this out. Nothing upsets me more than a mother complaining she can't get pregnant and have another baby that everyone else has "the one thing she wants most". Meanwhile she has the one thing PI (primary infertility) ladies wish they could experience just once. I guess for me I find it entirely rude and overly dramatic to treat IF the second time around as if you haven't ever been blessed with a child of your own. I understand women without children being upset at others getting the one thing they've wished for. I fail to really understand those who say the exact thing when they actually already do have a child.
I've seen a women last year even say, after having 5 kids.. that's right folks 5 kids. Go on an Infertility forum and post "All of my friends around me are getting pregnant and having kids. When will it FINALLY be my turn !?!" 5 kids directing most of her frustration at women with no kids, asking when it will FINALLY be YOUR TURN? Really? Come on people, KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE. It's not ok in my mind to entirley complain to a group of women about having your 6th kid when they haven't been graced with having their 1st, and finally getting to be a mother, know the ups and downs of parenthood. Just, come on already! Please open your eyes. When things like this are said it is a huge reason why people without children struggling will internally think that a person doesn't 'appreciate' the gifts given to them. I see it as being greedy. Would you complain about not getting the 4th course in a meal to a starving child of a 3rd world country? I see this as being no different. I completely get that people need support but sometimes we have to go find specific groups of women who are in our exact situation, so that we don't offend people (yes we're in a world where sometimes we're too sensitive but I don't feel this is one of them) and so that you can get the proper support you deserve.
I've seen this happen more than once. Actually sometimes the most vocal about their pain are those who have children already complaining to women with no children. What gives? Is it just me? I just find it completely closed minded to treat your life like its the worst journey that could ever happen to you when you know that your life could be a lot worse. You could still not be a mother at all.
Ughhh.....
I need to just get this out. Nothing upsets me more than a mother complaining she can't get pregnant and have another baby that everyone else has "the one thing she wants most". Meanwhile she has the one thing PI (primary infertility) ladies wish they could experience just once. I guess for me I find it entirely rude and overly dramatic to treat IF the second time around as if you haven't ever been blessed with a child of your own. I understand women without children being upset at others getting the one thing they've wished for. I fail to really understand those who say the exact thing when they actually already do have a child.
I've seen a women last year even say, after having 5 kids.. that's right folks 5 kids. Go on an Infertility forum and post "All of my friends around me are getting pregnant and having kids. When will it FINALLY be my turn !?!" 5 kids directing most of her frustration at women with no kids, asking when it will FINALLY be YOUR TURN? Really? Come on people, KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE. It's not ok in my mind to entirley complain to a group of women about having your 6th kid when they haven't been graced with having their 1st, and finally getting to be a mother, know the ups and downs of parenthood. Just, come on already! Please open your eyes. When things like this are said it is a huge reason why people without children struggling will internally think that a person doesn't 'appreciate' the gifts given to them. I see it as being greedy. Would you complain about not getting the 4th course in a meal to a starving child of a 3rd world country? I see this as being no different. I completely get that people need support but sometimes we have to go find specific groups of women who are in our exact situation, so that we don't offend people (yes we're in a world where sometimes we're too sensitive but I don't feel this is one of them) and so that you can get the proper support you deserve.
I've seen this happen more than once. Actually sometimes the most vocal about their pain are those who have children already complaining to women with no children. What gives? Is it just me? I just find it completely closed minded to treat your life like its the worst journey that could ever happen to you when you know that your life could be a lot worse. You could still not be a mother at all.
Ughhh.....
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